DEAR ABBY - My son's wife passed away very recently. He works days, so I have been helping him by looking after his 15-year-old daughter, "Leyla."
Leyla recently told her father that her boyfriend, "Dylan," has asked her to vandalize things - TV, Blu-ray player, etc. - if her daddy enrolls her in a private school or moves her to another school closer to his company for a better education. Leyla's grades aren't good, and she spends most of her time chatting or texting with Dylan.
Abby, I'm really worried. The last thing Dylan asked her to do was kill her daddy because "he controls her too much." Before school ended, Dylan skipped a field trip. He didn't want Leyla to participate either because he feared that without him, she might have a chance to make friends with others, so she didn't turn in her paperwork and stayed home.
We plan to send her to a psychologist in the coming weeks. Should we bring this problem to the attention of her school principal? Thank you for your help.
Worried in California
DEAR WORRIED SICK - I'm glad your granddaughter will soon see a therapist. I'm sure they'll have a lot to talk about.
Because Leyla is in constant communication with Dylan, take her cellphone away and monitor her activity on the computer. That he would ask her to damage property or cause physical harm to another person is something that should be immediately reported not only to the school principal, but also to his parents and the police. This young man could be dangerous to the adults in your family, as well as to your granddaughter unless there is an intervention NOW.
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