DEAR ABBY - My daughter recently informed me that she's met someone and the someone happens to be a woman. My reaction was, of course, shock and anger, although I have kind of suspected over the years that she is a lesbian.
She is 43 and was …
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She is 43 and was married for 10 years. She has two children and has been divorced for about 11 years. She dated a few guys, but either had no luck with them or it didn't last.
I don't know how to handle this because I'm against people being gay. I see it as unnatural and think they all have issues. I don't treat gay people any different from anyone else, but I do keep them at a distance. Now I don't know how to proceed with our relationship. Please help.
Shocked and angry mom
DEAR S. AND A. - While you may be angry, because you've long suspected that your daughter might be a lesbian you cannot now claim to be shocked. One reason gay people have "issues," as you put it, is because they have to endure opposition and nonacceptance from the family members they love. Your 43-year-old daughter has spent years not being who she really is — possibly to please you — and now has realized she must be her authentic self.
If you want any relationship at all with her, apologize and tell her you overreacted. Tell her you love her and explain that you may need time to fully accept this. Wish her well and hope that she forgives you.
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